9 Lessons Learned From the AIDS Crisis That Could Save Us Now
Sadly, the lessons are being ignored
I remember, as a teenager, first hearing about AIDS. It’s a foggy memory of a news broadcaster talking about Rock Hudson dying. And I remember not knowing who that was, but my mom was distraught, tears rolling down her face.
“Why are you crying, Mom?”
“Rock Hudson was such an idol of mine. I can’t believe he’s gay and has AIDS.”
It left an indelible welt on me that continued to grow and redden with every passing year, sexual awakening, and HIV scare. My dad (like myself, a gay man) kept his orientation secret from my mom during the early 1980s. By the end of the decade, they were divorced, and he was dating his now 30-plus-year partner. There is no doubt in my mind that the shame and fear of AIDS drove both of us to hide our identities.
HIV/AIDS has always been a fact of life for me. It killed some friends and maimed others. And for the rest of us gay and bi men — positive and negative — it has left lasting scars. Embarrassment about HIV prevents many of my friends from talking about their status, even now and even with a sympathetic person. The fear that you are going to die because of who you are is a powerful force, and it doesn’t get any easier if you happen to also be the…
