Illustration: Adrian Forrow

Your ‘Surge Capacity’ Is Depleted — It’s Why You Feel Awful

Here’s how to pull yourself out of despair and live your life

An unprecedented disaster

“How do you adjust to an ever-changing situation where the ‘new normal’ is indefinite uncertainty?”

Understanding ambiguous loss

A winding, uncharted path to coping in a pandemic

Accept that life is different right now

Expect less from yourself

Recognize the different aspects of grief

“Our new normal is always feeling a little off balance, like trying to stand in a dinghy on rough seas, and not knowing when the storm will pass.”

Experiment with “both-and” thinking

Look for activities, new and old, that continue to fulfill you

Focus on maintaining and strengthening important relationships

Begin slowly building your resilience bank account


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Tara Haelle is a science journalist, public speaker, and author of Vaccination Investigation and The Informed Parent. Follow her at @tarahaelle.

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Tara Haelle is a science journalist, public speaker, and author of Vaccination Investigation and The Informed Parent. Follow her at @tarahaelle.

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