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How to Snap Your Parents Out of Their Coronavirus Denial
So many older people are ignoring the advice to stay put. How can you finally get through to them?
“Don’t you dare,” I found myself saying, my voice escalating. “Do you know how worried we are? You listen to me, do you understand?”
I was not speaking with my rebellious teen, or any child, for that matter. I was, in fact, chastising my mother, a 76-year-old grown adult who seemingly refused to adhere to health officials’ orders: Older adults are the most vulnerable to Covid-19, the disease caused by the novel coronavirus, and should therefore “stay at home as much as possible.”
Instead, she was making plans to gather her siblings and relatives for a family get-together at a restaurant. All I could envision were germ-infused grandchildren hugging her body or my cousins spreading whatever they picked up on buses and trains.
I was furious. But more than that, utterly frustrated that I wasn’t near her and therefore unable to shackle her to the living room couch.
“Don’t worry so much,” my mom said. “Relax. I can go here and there.”
This drove me into a state of rage. It’s as if we were living in two realities: one in which Covid-19 was shutting down entire…
