“How does that make you feel?” is probably the question most associated with therapy. It’s meant to help people connect with their feelings, but sometimes it can be hard to adequately express emotions. I should know — my therapist calls me out on this on a regular basis. We were discussing my relationship with close family members when my therapist asked how a particular situation made me feel.
“Well, I think…” and I rattled on.
“That’s a thought,” she said gently. “Not a feeling.”
“Oh, umm… okay,” I stammered. “Ugh, I wish there was a list of feelings I could…
When a family emergency rocked my family last year, my husband and I found ourselves in the blessed but lonely position of being The Only Ones Who Could Help. After we had a conversation about how much money we needed, how much we had available, and how much was on the way, we wrote out a list of what we needed to do.
Our discussion had gone well, and we agreed it would be necessary to cut back on a few things if we wanted to help our family, and maintain some sense of financial stability in our own home…
Co-authored with Diana Divecha
During the week of March 23, days after U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Jerome Adams urged Americans to stay at home to slow the spread of Covid-19, the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and Collaborative for Academic and Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL) conducted a survey of more than 5,000 people worldwide.
We asked participants to describe how they were feeling, in their own words. More than 95% of the words reflected unpleasant feelings; the top five were anxious, fearful, worried, overwhelmed, and sad. Only about 6% of the sample mentioned positive feelings like hopeful and grateful…
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