When Men Find Out They Will Never Have Biological Children
There’s still a lack of openness, and even awareness, when it comes to men and infertility struggles
Scott Burkholder lay on his couch, huddled under a blanket, stunned and silent. It was 2018, just a few weeks before Christmas. He had a lump in his throat. Water in his eyes. And a urologist seated by his feet, delivering the news: There was no sperm in his testicles. What many men consider their life’s greatest project — having and raising children — appeared out of reach.
The news landed on Burkholder like a punch to the face. Initially, he was shocked it had happened, then confused as to why, and then, finally, forced to process the accompanying pain. He was happily married and working in Baltimore as a talent agent for emerging artists. He had furnished for himself a rewarding life. And now, this.
“When I heard I needed to go see a specialist, I dragged my feet. I was probably thinking: There’s just nothing wrong with me. Why would I go do that?”
“Here I am, otherwise healthy, but, you know, I’m infertile,” recalls Burkholder, who turned 41 this year.
