When Therapists Get Together to Talk About Our Patients

Talking to colleagues helps us reexamine not just our patients, but ourselves in relation to our patients

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Generally what happens between therapist and patient also plays out between the patient and people in the outside world.

If I asked why she kept coming to see me if she felt so misunderstood, she’d say I was abandoning her and that I wished she would leave — just like her boyfriends or her peers at work.

Therapists will be supportive, but our support is for your growth, not for your low opinion of your partner.

I decide to take my consultation group’s advice and end my sessions with Becca. Afterwards, I feel both disappointed and liberated. When I tell Wendell about it at my next session, he says he knows exactly how it felt to be with her.

Excerpted from MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb. Copyright © 2019 by Lori Gottlieb. Published and reprinted by permission of Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. All rights reserved.

New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed. www.lorigottlieb.com

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